However, this year brought structure and direction, in part because I asked myself three questions:

• What can I offer the world?
• Who can help me?
• Who can I help, and how?

What can I offer the world?

I decided to write down the answer and was surprised at the length of the list. First and foremost, I decided I could help people heal their relationship with money and organise their finances. The psychology of money has been a constant in my life. I even wrote a book on the subject.

As a business owner, I added the knowledge and skills gained from courses and experiences.

I also listed my mistakes, of which there were many, and the lessons I had learnt from them.

Who can help me?

I realised I needed help to escape the rut I was in. I found and retained a coach who specialised in coaching coaches. Her first question to me was: “Are you coachable?” I decided to swallow my ego, replied in the affirmative, let go of all my previous notions about running a coaching business, and opted to be open to all she suggested.

Friends and colleagues also provided informal help. My coach suggested I discuss their challenges with friends, relatives and associates. Not only was this revealing, but many also gave me excellent suggestions for redesigning my business.

What do people want from me?

The more I probed, the deeper the problems I found. There is truth in the adage that the presenting issue is never the real issue.

I spoke to my peer group whose kids had recently left school. I discovered that even the most resourceful and determined parents struggled with money, health, ageing parents, empty houses, relationships, purpose, work/life balance, “enoughness,” retirement and more.

A way forward

And in the answers to these three questions, I discovered a way forward. I realised I was extremely well-positioned to support parents whose kids have left home while they reorganise their lives and money. In so doing, I could help them fulfil their higher aspirations of growing their wealth, making a difference and living with grace and style.

Of course, further questions arose as I discovered answers. However, these three questions are powerful, revealing, and worth asking yourself when you lose direction.

ABOUT

I work with ambitious, family-oriented professionals transitioning to independent consultants to create a 3 to 5-year holistic plan so that they grow wealthy, make a difference and find meaning.

My clients are aged 35-50. They are in a long-term relationship with family and parents who are supportive but ageing. They wrestle with personal and financial responsibilities and dream of more control, wealth, time and purpose.

If this excites you, you are coachable, willing to change, and want to stop going around in circles, then find out more at jeremydeedes.com

Then, take your next step and explore your way forward with a Mapmaker, a one-off online coaching gig to help you decide your options, assess our compatibility, and determine whether we are the right fit. Mapmaker is excellent value, held in confidence and without further commitment.

Photo attribution

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