Creating compassionate change for others
At that point, my friend asked one of those questions that make you feel you have been hit in the solar plexus. He simply asked, “Who do you want to make a difference for, yourself or others?”
Who benefits from the change you create?
It is not a common question, but I can see why he asked. It is only too easy for our egos to push us into making changes to benefit ourselves without regard for the feelings and circumstances of others. It was a question that certainly gave pause for thought and reflection.
When we create change to benefit ourselves, we succumb to the power of our egos, and the result is that others may get damaged. Egotism, by definition, focuses on the self at the expense of others. Compassion, the antidote to egotism, helps us see the impact of our actions on others.
If you are considering new directions and purposes and want to make a difference that benefits others, here are two essential activities to keep you focussed.
A values statement and manifesto keep you focused on others
First, develop a statement of values. Write down the values you want to live by and highlight the most important (your “North Star value”). Whilst most of us have some idea of how we want to live, only a few of us take the time to formulate a values system by which to navigate through life. Your values statement should be the foundation for how you live; hopefully, you will include values such as compassion and service in your list.
Second, develop a manifesto or personal mission statement. If you want to make a difference for the benefit of others, then say so and set out how you will focus on others rather than yourself.
Meaning comes from making a difference others want to see.
Keep your values statement and personal manifesto to hand (you might even combine the two) as a reminder of your drivers.
And if this seems a bit messianic, remember that the best way of finding meaning and purpose in your life is to be of service (paid or voluntary) to others and help them make the difference they want to see.
Will money make a difference to your values?
On the cusp of a financial crisis, reflect on your core values and decide if you will take the path of service to others or yourself.
How to use your gifts to help others
The gifts you have to offer are an excellent place to start when deciding how to lead a life of meaning and purpose by making a difference to others.
How to find meaning by sharing
When you have achieved something, share your experiences for greater meaning and to feel part of something greater than just you.
Write a personal manifesto for a meaningful life
Your personal manifesto is your roadmap and compass to a life of meaning and integrity, so start your first draft now.
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