Jeremy Deedes helps parents whose kids have left home to grow their wealth, find their purpose and thrive with grace and style

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This newsletter supports parents whose kids have left home as they reset their lives and money for wealth, purpose, grace and style.

Scrap Your Resolutions

Jan 7, 2024 | PSL Newsletters

Give up your New Year's Resolutions now, before your failure to achieve them leaves you feeling even worse than the pain that prompted you to initiate them.
Give up your New Year's Resolutions now, before your failure to achieve them leaves you feeling even worse than the pain that prompted you to initiate them.

Happy New Year. Welcome to 2024 and the first newsletter of the year.

I have a proposal for you. Scrap all your New Year’s Resolutions. Give them up now, before your failure to achieve them leaves you feeling even worse than the pain that prompted you to initiate them in the first place.

Instead, resolve and give yourself permission to get some coaching in 2024.

Here are three reasons why a single resolution to get coaching will be more successful than trying to make and keep resolutions such as Dry January, losing weight, getting fit, saving more, or working less.

You can’t do it alone.

 You will have inspiring and sometimes difficult conversations with your coach, who will facilitate new ideas and insights with you and are far more effective than having a conversation with yourself.

Your coach will also hold you accountable for acting on these insights and putting them into practice between sessions. Again, this is far more effective than holding yourself accountable. You probably already know this. Review previous New Year Resolutions and count how many came to fruition.

Coaching connects you to an impartial third party, so you don’t do it alone. An effective coaching programme will include between-session features such as quick coaching by text or email, session notes, the creation and tracking of action items, a method to measure quantitive progress over time, courses, assignments and a journalling facility.

See “Coaching is similar to fitness training“.

Coaching works

 I know because I built an entire business organising the lives and finances of, amongst others, empty nest parents. As a financial life planner, most of my time was spent coaching clients about their lives and money.

Witness this comment from my Planning for Life clients, John and Catherine:

Without (you), we would never have had the confidence to do what we are doing but would have muddled on in the same old way. Now, we are on the brink of a major, albeit somewhat scary, adventure, secure in the knowledge that we have the financial backing to live our dream lifestyle. It truly is all thanks to you (and) the enthusiasm, patience and confidence you expressed so clearly to us.” 

My coaching programmes today are not much different from those I practised in the years before I relinquished my authorisation to provide financial advice. So, my financial planning clients’ comments prove that coaching works.

As my clients Chris and Charlotte wrote, “The real icing on the cake is that it has all been done with a lightness of touch, a sense of humour and a real understanding of our needs and our personalities. We cannot recommend Jeremy more highly.

So, yes, coaching works.

See “Does coaching work for empty nesters?“.

Short-term needs, longer-term wants

 Ask yourself why you made a New Year’s Resolution. What did you say to yourself when, for instance, you resolved to make January a dry month? You might have told yourself you need to give up alcohol for a month after the December binge. Alternatively, you might have said to yourself that you want to live life more fully and stylishly without alcohol.

However, you probably did not combine your wants and needs as a coach would. For instance, my coaching clients need to organise their lives and money straight away so that they can, in the longer term, live with the purpose, grace and style they want.

The words “so that” are critical and usually ignored by us as individuals. “So that” joins your wants and needs, challenges and opportunities, solutions and results.

Coaching gets results because your coach will work with you to overcome your inner gremlins, such as inhibiting beliefs, patterns and values, which might scupper your New Year’s resolutions. Then, you will design the life you want, and with your coach breathing down your neck (figuratively speaking), you will engage with the world to get where you want to be.

See “Make your kids as proud of you as you are of them.

Make a start now.

 I have designed the ideal coaching starter pack for you. It’s called the Empty Nest Navigator, and sessions take place in the second half of January.

Be bold. Be a bit different. Take action now. All you have to do is pre-register before midnight on 12 January and then buy the package from the email I’ll send you when pre-registration closes. I can run 12 sessions in January and offer these to the wait list first.

Pre-registration does not commit you to purchasing a Navigator but allows you to explore all the information on my website.

So, register now using the link below, and then use this week to decide whether to carry on as you are by yourself or drop all your resolutions in favour of working with a coach.

PS. Pre-registering for a Navigator does not require a deposit or commitment to buy and entitles you to a 20% discount, access to your Personal Accountability Page for three months and other bonuses should you decide to purchase a Navigator.

PPS. Client names have been changed to protect confidentiality, and the written testimonials from which these excerpts were taken are available in my office.

Next steps

If you want to talk more about overcoming your problems and making the most of opportunities after the kids leave home, send an email to me at jd@projectsophialtd.co.uk or book a free 20-minute consultation call.

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Welcome to After the Lids Leave Home, a monthly newsletter providing support across a range of topics for parents whose kids have left home as they reorganise their lives and money to grow their wealth, find a new purpose by making a difference and live with grace and style. Find out more at jeremydeedes.com.

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